Personality Styles

___ Aggressive

 

___ Passive

 

___ Passive-Aggressive

 

___ Assertive

A. This person tends to overpower other people. They are often loud, bossy, and dominating. When conflict arises, this person will often verbally attack the other person. They usually blame other people and are rarely willing to admit or take responsibility for their part in the conflict. This person has no problem violating others rights in order to get what they want.

B. This individual is likely to avoid dealing with problems and does not speak up for his or her rights. They are often nervous and anxious, talks in a quiet voice, and has little confidence in themselves. He/she often tries hard to please others and neglects to take care of their own needs. Because this person "hides" anger instead of expressing it, the anger just builds up inside. The pinned up anger will often times lead to an explosion, or the person may develop problems like depression, headaches, and other pains, sleeplessness and anxiety.

C. This next individual may seem passive because they behave in similar ways. But instead of "stuffing" their anger, this person is sure to "get back at you!" They often get back at you in a sneaky, underhanded way or in a way that will hurt you without drawing attention to themselves. They even do things unconsciously to hurt you and make you upset. This person is often suspicious or distrustful of others. Because this person chooses not to address the real problem, they rarely get their needs met.

D. This last person is clear, confident, and in control of their own self at all times. He/she stands up for their rights without stepping on anyone else's feelings. They speak with a clear voice that is direct, honest, and respectful. This confident person is able to say "no" to anything they are uncomfortable with, and is not about to compromise his or her own beliefs or values to make some other selfish person happy.